September 2023
September 2023 marks a milestone: 25 years since my life changing childbirth injury.
It’s also the month I’ll celebrate my son’s birthday.
My son is my world and I love him dearly. There is no hint of resentment or regret in becoming his mother. What occurred during his delivery was beyond my control; I don’t hold him accountable and I’m forever thankful that he was born healthy.
I want to shed some light on the complex emotions this day may bring for women who have suffered a severe injury in childbirth like me – a blend of joy, love and celebration, but also a reminder of what has been lost and the life taken away from us with the subsequent challenges we face due to our injuries.
It’s a paradox of happiness and sorrow – the life we had before or envisioned, dreams and aspirations rerouted in ways unimaginable and is rarely discussed.
Yet, I’m not alone in reflecting on the possibility of a better quality of life, the repercussions this injury has had on my health and wellbeing, relationships and career that trace back to that fateful day.
While my journey has taken an unexpected path, it’s important to acknowledge the strength that has emerged from adversity. Each day, I appreciate the resilience that shapes my life, and the enduring love that has flourished despite the challenges.
With unwavering support from my husband who has shared my journey and witnessing the remarkable growth of my son into the exceptional person he is today, I’ve found the strength to continue moving forward with a revitalised sense of purpose, optimism, and an empowering outlook.
As this anniversary approaches, I shall embrace this day with a sense of joy, gratitude and cherish the occasion to celebrate with my son.